Breakfast in Messy Bed!
Perfectionists have a lot of baggage that other people don’t, and that baggage comes from constantly striving to appear perfect.” Basically, it’s not easy being perfect; it’s heavy and exhausting.
When we live a rigid life in order to attain out-of-reach goals, we miss out on the organic rhythms that our mind and bodies might be moving to in a life less focused on perfection. Striving to be great … or good or even just okay.
Messy but lots of Fun!
Rather than perfect allows one to find their groove and excel, even if that means excelling with a messy sink or undone hair. And when you get to that point, and can find the liberating joy of imperfection? I would say that’s pretty perfect.
Messy Beautiful Hair!
Furnham says that people focused on perfection tend to have low self-esteem, noting also the presence of “guilt and its fellow travelers, shame and self-recrimination.” Admittedly it’s not clear if low self esteem feeds perfectionism or if perfectionism feeds low self esteem, but when I think of the more confident people I know, they are the ones unashamed of imperfection.
I for one stopped being so rigid in my cycling schedule. I now dress the way I feel like, colorful if I want to, no planned routes. Yes, I am a Messy Cyclist, and I LOVE IT!
Messy Happy Cyclists!