“If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.” Morris West
“Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.” Milton Erickson
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain
“The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives? When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see in truth that you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” Kahlil Gibran
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” Unknown
#1 — Don’t allow the fear of failure to stop you from taking risks
While we will all do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure in the short term, we need to flip our thinking so that we look more to the long term. We must ask ourselves questions like, “Why am I so worried? What’s the worst that can happen if I just take a risk? What’s the potential outcome 2, 3, 5, or even 10 years from now?
#2 — Remember that you’ve got this — you’ve pulled through before, and you’ll pull through again
Other ways to achieve it: all you have to do is realize that you’ve pulled through in the past and you’ll pull through again. Jot down how you were able to figure out a once-desperate situation. Recall the times when things seemed dark and bleak, but somehow, one way or another, you figured it out. You did it before and you’ll do it again.
#3 — Immediately disrupt any and all detrimental behavior and negative beliefs that are holding you back
I talk about beliefs because worry is born from a state of negative beliefs. There are different ways to come to the “chronic worrying path”. We worry because we believe we’re not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough to see something through. We worry because we don’t think we have what it takes. That leads to negative thinking, and a set of resultant behaviors that help to close the loop of negativity.
#4 — Your self-worth doesn’t rely on others’ opinions of you — ignore the naysayers
Make a conscious decision right now to do it. Decide, right here in this very moment, that your life means more than others’ opinions of you. And tell yourself you’re not going to worry about it anymore. It’s just not that important. It’s not worth your mental health. Just keep doing you and moving forward. All of the rest will eventually fall into place over time.
#5 — Anything in life that’s worthwhile, will never, ever come easy
Worrying does a huge number on us. It takes away on every level.
Physically, emotionally, spiritually and or financially. But, in order to move away from worry, not only do we need a major shift in our focus, but we need a strategic plan for the future. We need to set goals, create a plan, take action, persist, and never give up. Find your way back!
I love to travel a lot and I am a well versed traveler but this is my first time in South Korea for business and fun. And since the Winter Olympics are happening in this country our family decided for us to stay three days at the Conrad Hotel in Seoul and then go to Pyongyang for the finals. So, so long Seoul, hello Pyeongchang!
It was very hard to track down accommodations close to these mountain events but we did it with anticipation though, we learned our lesson in Sochi 2014 where we stayed on a cruise ship near the coastal cluster and had to commute every day to watch my events. The way the security was set up most of the mountain based accommodations would have been difficult to get to without a car. We planned better this time.
SE SOUVENIR DE LA CORÉE DU SUD
Busan en Corée du Sud est la seconde plus grande ville du pays. Très souvent, visiter Busan est une étape incontournable lors d’un voyage en Corée du Sud.
Ville portuaire située au sud de la péninsule coréenne, la ville est assez étendue et dispose de plusieurs points d’intérêt touristiques au sein même de la ville ou en bordure. En effet, pour visiter Busan correctement, il faut compter au moins 2 jours.
Dans ce billet consacré à Busan en Corée du Sud, je vous donne mes conseils pour préparer votre visite de la ville et savoir quoi faire à Busan.
Thank you for being who you are, hard working women, students in science, arts, writers in journalism, poetry, philosophy, mothers, the pillar of your family, politicians. Thank you for reading what I write, what I share. As a woman I have always fought hard for my rights to become successful, healthy, happy, for my family.
It has not been easy for me, and I am sure it has not been easy for many women who which I have contact with in the digital world. But we reach out, we study, we work, we are discipline and persevere until we conquer what we wanted.
We women are strong and deserve to speak out against violence against us, just because we have been perceived as the “weak gender”. This is a new era, and the era is ours for us to show the kind of strength needed to create a wonderful world of peace, health and love….without violence, and without discriminating anyone.
Men will be our partners, not our enemies. We are all human beings and deserve to walk together, all of us, nobody behind.
December 17-23 Predating the birth of Jesus by centuries, this Ancient Roman celebration, in honor of the God Saturn, is marked by parties, gift-giving, and role reversals.
The first-century AD poet Gaius Valerius Catullus described Saturnalia as ‘the best of times’: dress codes were relaxed, small gifts such as dolls, candles and caged birds were exchanged.
Saturnalia saw the inversion of social roles. The wealthy were expected to pay the month’s rent for those who couldn’t afford it, masters and slaves to swap clothes. Family households threw dice to determine who would become the temporary Saturnalian monarch. The poet Lucian of Samosata (AD 120-180) has the god Cronos (Saturn) say in his poem, Saturnalia:
‘During my week the serious is barred: no business allowed. Drinking and being drunk, noise and games of dice, appointing of kings and feasting of slaves, singing naked, clapping … an occasional ducking of corked faces in icy water – such are the functions over which I preside.’
Saturnalia originated as a farmer’s festival to mark the end of the autumn planting season in honour of Saturn (satus means sowing). Numerous archaeological sites from the Roman coastal province of Constantine, now in Algeria, demonstrate that the cult of Saturn survived there until the early third century AD.
Saturnalia grew in duration and moved to progressively later dates under the Roman period. During the reign of the Emperor Augustus (63 BC-AD 14), it was a two-day affair starting on December 17th. By the time Lucian described the festivities, it was a seven-day event. Changes to the Roman calendar moved the climax of Saturnalia to December 25th, around the time of the date of the winter solstice.
From around 1583 the Church of Scotland ( Presbyterian) discouraged ‘Yule’ celebrations. The church believed that there was no basis for celebrating the day as it didn’t reflect what was in the bible. There are even records of some people being arrested over unlawful celebrations during
the years it was officially banned.
Living is an art or is a path to destruction, and unfortunately the lack of love and compassion within the family structure is what triggers so much loneliness, depression and anxiety in many.
We are born, if we are lucky enough, to two loving parents who care about us so much to let us grow into kind, compassionate and successful human beings. But sometimes things go wrong: the family is dysfunctional, parents or children don’t care about each other. They become bitter and depressive, even when they finish graduate or post-graduate school; hey, maybe they even become rich, but no matter what they do in life unhappiness is always there.
These kind of frustrated person is the one that we should not become, it is the type of individual we all should avoid in our lives. They just drain the merriment out of us because it is the only way for them to find “joy”: when others are unhappy or unfortunate.
I would say to them: “Be happy, let others be joyful … let others live”
Have you ever noticed that feeling of well-being after a good laugh? I have. I try to feel that way everyday. Sometimes when I’m riding my bike alone I make myself laugh remembering funny situations I might have experienced in the past. I laugh out loud, another cyclist might pass me by and notices I am having a good time. He laughs too and smiles. This happens pretty often, and I like it when people around me are happy too. It’s just right!
My “to do list” for sunday includes several goals. These actions have one purpose: to achieve happiness and continue to grow mentally and spiritually. I am planning to practice each one of them today and continue tomorrow. One day at a time! Feel free to add in the comment section your own goal/s for today, the week, etc.
Perfectionists have a lot of baggage that other people don’t, and that baggage comes from constantly striving to appear perfect.” Basically, it’s not easy being perfect; it’s heavy and exhausting.
When we live a rigid life in order to attain out-of-reach goals, we miss out on the organic rhythms that our mind and bodies might be moving to in a life less focused on perfection. Striving to be great … or good or even just okay.
Messy but lots of Fun!
Rather than perfect allows one to find their groove and excel, even if that means excelling with a messy sink or undone hair. And when you get to that point, and can find the liberating joy of imperfection? I would say that’s pretty perfect.
Messy Beautiful Hair!
Furnham says that people focused on perfection tend to have low self-esteem, noting also the presence of “guilt and its fellow travelers, shame and self-recrimination.” Admittedly it’s not clear if low self esteem feeds perfectionism or if perfectionism feeds low self esteem, but when I think of the more confident people I know, they are the ones unashamed of imperfection.
I for one stopped being so rigid in my cycling schedule. I now dress the way I feel like, colorful if I want to, no planned routes. Yes, I am a Messy Cyclist, and I LOVE IT!