Beauty already exists everywhere and in everything. Our job is to look for it.
Stop thinking. Stop doing. Just be still for a moment and cast aside any distractions. You cannot fully appreciate something if your mind is elsewhere. Ideally you should be able to slowly count to 60 without your mind wandering to something else.
You might have to use a bit of imagination to get going, but once you’re there it’s difficult to stop.
Begin to notice your surroundings. Don’t dwell too long on one thing. Just take in your environment and sink further into that state of non-thinking and non-doing.
Pick one thing close to you and study it intensely. Notice the beauty in its complexity and the complexity it its simplicity. For example, look at how all of the thousands of blades of grass fold over each other and quiver together in the wind. Or how the wood grain in your dining room table contains endless patterns marking the growth of the tree that it once was.
“If you spend your whole life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.” Morris West
“Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.” Milton Erickson
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain
“The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives? When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see in truth that you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” Kahlil Gibran
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” Unknown
“Chase your dreams and your nightmares will grow tired of chasing you.” ― Matshona Dhliwayo
“Well, I definitely advise anyone who wants to write, write. Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. Because a lot of people can be very discouraging to people who say they want to be a professional writer. If you want to do it, then chase it. Chase your dreams. Follow your heart. If that’s what you want, go after it. Write it out. You never know, you could be the next big thing.” ― Helena Lancaster
Motivate yourself, everyday, every moment of your life, to continue to live with strength, goals, hope and compassion.
Get up every morning with that sparkle in your brain that makes your heart, your muscles and bones get up, then you smile big knowing that you are doing the right thing FOR YOU!
Run after your dreams, chase them until they are conquered by you! Do not let anybody take them away!
#1 — Don’t allow the fear of failure to stop you from taking risks
While we will all do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure in the short term, we need to flip our thinking so that we look more to the long term. We must ask ourselves questions like, “Why am I so worried? What’s the worst that can happen if I just take a risk? What’s the potential outcome 2, 3, 5, or even 10 years from now?
#2 — Remember that you’ve got this — you’ve pulled through before, and you’ll pull through again
Other ways to achieve it: all you have to do is realize that you’ve pulled through in the past and you’ll pull through again. Jot down how you were able to figure out a once-desperate situation. Recall the times when things seemed dark and bleak, but somehow, one way or another, you figured it out. You did it before and you’ll do it again.
#3 — Immediately disrupt any and all detrimental behavior and negative beliefs that are holding you back
I talk about beliefs because worry is born from a state of negative beliefs. There are different ways to come to the “chronic worrying path”. We worry because we believe we’re not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough to see something through. We worry because we don’t think we have what it takes. That leads to negative thinking, and a set of resultant behaviors that help to close the loop of negativity.
#4 — Your self-worth doesn’t rely on others’ opinions of you — ignore the naysayers
Make a conscious decision right now to do it. Decide, right here in this very moment, that your life means more than others’ opinions of you. And tell yourself you’re not going to worry about it anymore. It’s just not that important. It’s not worth your mental health. Just keep doing you and moving forward. All of the rest will eventually fall into place over time.
#5 — Anything in life that’s worthwhile, will never, ever come easy
Worrying does a huge number on us. It takes away on every level.
Physically, emotionally, spiritually and or financially. But, in order to move away from worry, not only do we need a major shift in our focus, but we need a strategic plan for the future. We need to set goals, create a plan, take action, persist, and never give up. Find your way back!
I just listened to UNBROKEN yesterday. I enjoyed the lyrics so much that I could not stop listening to it over and over.
If you feel down, listen to this song (MUSICAL VIDEO below). Listen to other songs that would liberate your mind from pain, from feeling unworthy, sad, lonely. But do it as soon as possible. See, the longer you allow yourself to feel like you can not go on anymore, the longer will be for you to recuperate, to go back on your feet and “fight” the good fight, to live plenty.
So, do it today. Today is the day for you to pull yourself out of that hole without ladders. There is always a ladder. If you don’t think so, if you don’t see it, then YOU get it and put it on the wall of the deep hole and climb it up!
The ability to perceive the signals of your body is known as interoceptive accuracy (IAc). There are, different psychosomatic cues that you pick up within yourself during states of anxiety. But above all, a beating heart is the hardest one to ignore.
It’s for this reason that heartbeat perception, as brain scientists call it, is a direct proxy for measuring people’s IAc and reported anxiety and stress levels.
IAc and a beating heart
Having the ability to accurately detect your own heartbeat is critical for reappraising your anxiety on a moment to moment basis. We know that anxiety is as much in the body as it is in the mind, and that a (mis)perception of a fast heart rate can easily contribute to the catastrophization of a panicked state.
It’s why some of the most effective anxiety-related therapies, like progressive muscle relaxation and deep breathing, tend to focus on muting a physiological response followed by a cognitive reappraisal technique.
Now in terms of IAc, the longstanding view was that it is an inherited trait, similar to eye color or height. Your IAc is immutable, unchanging. But now there’s new evidence suggesting that the situation matters just as much as the person: While some people may have inherently bad interoceptive ability, we can’t ignore the influence of the broader context. And this, if it turns out to be true, is a definite win for anyone looking to reverse a certain anxiety-based predisposition.
The study and findings
A team of researchers led by Martin F. Whittkamp out of the University of Luxembourg set out to investigate just how much of a role the environment plays in determining our ability to self-reflect on accurate biofeedback.
The researchers relied on two methods to measure IAc via heartbeat perception. The first, called the counting task is simply a comparison between actual measures of your heartbeat with your self-reported measures. Another method, called the heartbeat discrimination task, measures how accurately you can rate whether or not your heartbeat is in sync with an external stimulus such as a blinking light on a computer screen.
The team in this newest study compared the results of both a heartbeat counting task and discrimination task in two conditions: a resting state and a stress state. Mental stress was induced by having participants match the color of a flashing light bulb with a corresponding button as fast and accurately as possible. If this wasn’t stressful enough, the experimenter also chimed in with a few verbal cues urging the participant to perform better so as to not ruin the entire experiment.
In addition to comparing stress state IAc with resting state IAc, the researchers also designed a number of computational models. These models aimed to measure how much of one’s interoceptive accuracy is owed to individual ability versus the situation.
The results found that about 40% of a person’s IAc can be explained by his/her individual traits, while around 30% can be explained by the changing situation, leaving the remaining 30% to measurement error.
What this says is that your ability to detect and therefore modulate your bodily responses during an anxious state is not fixed. These signals are amenable to change. You can learn to more accurately perceive your beating heart in a high-stress environment. You can apply reappraisal techniques in mitigating your anxiety.
The findings of this study have the potential to inform research on stress and anxiety management. For example, having a general idea of how much your IAc is dependent on biological predisposition could provide leeway to pharmaceutical interventions to help combat debilitating responses to stressful situations.
For now there’s therapeutic power in knowing you can improve your IAc and work towards minimizing your anxiety.
“Ways to Make it in life are never shy or apologetic!”
Dr. Martha A. Castro Noriega, MD
BE COURAGEOUS, FEARLESS, RISK IS POWERFUL!
STUDY, RESEARCH, INVESTIGATE CONSTANTLY
BE PERSISTENT INSIST ALWAYS
BE ETHICAL AND GO THE EXTRA MILE
Of course, we can add hundreds ways more to the list, but it is all up to each one of YOU to know which way is the perfect road to your own success May I add, getting away from people who are not at your level of thriving, who are not loyal and they live in constant drama is another fantastic way to continue your path towards success. I will talk more about this interesting topic in another blog post.
Enjoying a Barbra Streisand concert on cable, delightful voice and musical interpretation. She sang a song from the “Sound Of Music”, beautifully, magnificent. But I have a problem with a part of the lyrics of this song.
I will tell you first a little bit of my musical experience so you know why I dare to criticize (in a constructive way, of course) the lyrics of this song.
I happen to be a musician. I play the guitar and sing very well, actually. I sang professionally in my youth to pay for my medical career. I studied music, singing lessons and musical composicion: music and lyrics, in Bellas Artes in Mexico City. So I think I have a very good idea of what I am talking about, but I am always open for a healthy debate and to change my mind if somebody is willing to explain to me why I am wrong in my assertion about this song:
“Climb Every Mountain” — Written by Rodgers And Hammerstein.
This show tune was written for the 1959 musical “The Sound of Music” and sung by the Mother Abbess.
The problem I have with, is highlighted and I will tell you why below the lyrics:
Climb every mountain Ford every stream Follow every rainbow ‘Till you find your dream
It should say “reach” your dream, not find your dream. You already need to have found your dream, this is “know” your dream, then climb every mountain, until you reach it. And I don’t see any problem with the rhyme. Changing the word find to reach would not affect the tune nor the octaves, but it would make a lot more sense, and it would have more psychological and inspirational impact, in my opinion.
Suicide can be preventable since infancy. Having caring parents and relatives who really love their children and look out for them, creating an optimal and loving environment for their healthy and happy growth.
However, this almost seems like a utopia in the world we live in. But it is not impossible, we have to have hope, always, and have love, for ourselves, our children, our family and friends.
But, even when we have had been raised in loving homes by caring parents, in a healthy social and mental environment bad things happen to good people as we all know: a failed marriage, the death of a loved one, the loss of work or income, a traumatic accident; things that could trigger an acute depression and if not treated immediately it could develop into a severe case of suicidal depression.
When a friend, a child, a patient, anybody tells us that “I don’t want to live anymore”, or that “I am going to kill myself tonight or tomorrow”, we have the responsibility as human beings to believe him/her and help in anyway possible and as soon as possible.
“There is a critical window in which depressed patients who are suicidal need rapid relief to prevent self-harm,” said Michael Grunebaum, MD, a research psychiatrist at CUMC, who led the study.
“Currently available antidepressants can be effective in reducing suicidal thoughts in patients with depression, but they can take weeks to have an effect. Suicidal, depressed patients need treatments that are rapidly effective in reducing suicidal thoughts when they are at highest risk.
Currently, there is no such treatment for rapid relief of suicidal thoughts in depressed patients.” — Read more here